How to parent smarter, with a little help from an expert

You're Not the Boss of MeBetsy Brown Braun’s You’re Not the Boss of Me promises to brat-proof your 4- to 12-year old, and so my natural aversion to parenting manuals was overcome by curiosity as to whether such a thing was actually possible. I quickly fell deeply, shamelessly in love with Braun’s no-nonsense, straightforward approach to parenting productively.

“Don’t bother with ‘good job,'” she says. “What does that even mean,
anyway?” A simple change to our automatic inclination to offer
praise — mention how responsible your child was for making that
particular choice, for example — and now you’re fostering good choices
rather than just saying something meaningless.

This book tackles
the big issues with suggestions that are totally doable, as well as
remembering to bring the humor and remind us that parents are humans,
too. And I giant pink puffy heart the places where she gives different
suggestions for different age groups side-by-side, so that you can
really see what developmental changes in your child require on your
behalf, too.

I don’t know if I’m ready to declare my children
completely brat-proof, but I definitely feel like we’re getting closer. -Mir

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You’re Not the
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Mir Kamin is a prolific writer, the author of the popular blogs Woulda Shoulda and, and a former contributor to Cool Mom Picks and Cool Mom Tech.


  • Reply July 21, 2010

    Melissa Tandem

    I’m going to check this book out soon. Offering a narrative of behavior instead of labling it has been so much more effective for me when interacting with kids. Another great book is “How to Talk So Kids Will Listen, and Listen So They Will Talk.” Keeping that playful attitude during serious times is essential!

  • Reply July 22, 2010


    I actually just went and ordered it… my son is 3.5-years-old and I am trying to raise him to be a non-bossy man. I think this book could help. I plan on reading it and then passing it on to my husband and parents (especially my parents).

  • Reply July 25, 2010


    hmmm…not a very original title. The waldorf community had a book come out a few years ago (2007) titled “you’re not the boss of me, understanding the six/seven year old transformation” edited by ruth ker.

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