Each Friday we share some of our favorite reads from around the web. However this week, we would not be listening to our hearts if we didn’t address the outrageous act of terror and hate that took place in Charleston nine days ago at the Emanuel African Methodist Episcopal Church.

Since that time, there has been so much to read, to process, to watch, to learn, and to understand. So we are sharing some of the links that we’ve been bookmarking ourselves over the past week, and that have moved us, educated us, made us think the most. Some are from women we know personally and love and respect, some from authors we don’t know at all except through their words.

Over the years, we’ve mourned for for Tibet, for Haiti, for Japan and beyond. Right now, we mourn for our very own American citizens. It would be an egregious omission to do anything less.

There are times to listen and there are times to talk. We know, it’s hard sometimes to know which is which. Or maybe, when to do both. So right now, we continue to read and listen more. We are also asking what can we do now? What can we do in the long term? How do we talk about what seems so unspeakable? How do we raise our own children to do better in their own lives? And, should we have the privilege not to have to speak to our children about racial issues in this country every single day of their lives, then that’s even more reason to get on it.

We’ll be back in the next few days with web coolness, and some other favorite links on all sorts of topics as always.  But we hope you’ll take the time to read these in particular today. We also hope you’ll find a way to talk about it with your children, if you have still been looking for a way. Because as Meagan Francis and others here remind us, it’s never too late.

-Kristen + Liz

Top photo: The New Yorker cover, June 29 issue

 

 

Know Their Names: Charleston | by illustrator Sarah Green
Know Their Names by Sarah Green

 

On Meagan Francis’s Happiest Home: It’s not too late to speak up about racism.

On Design Mom: Let’s talk about Charleston. Yes. Beautifully done.

On Semiproper: Outstanding post on A Beginner’s Guide to Becoming an Ally to the Black Community.

Our own Nicole Blades on Ms Mary Mack with an outstanding collection of links about Charleston and race.

Must must must watch: A black man and a white woman switch mics at a college poetry slam and…wow. Here are Darius Simpson and Scout Bostley.

Amanda Magee in HuffPost: Be One More

Jon Stewart always says it perfectly: On the Charleston Church shooting.

Chrysula Winegar on When You Wake Up a Mother: Take down that flag.

  • When people say “black lives matter,”  remember the rest of the sentence. What that phrase means is black lives matter just as much as white ones. When you say “but all lives matter” you are demonstrating you are not listening. -Chrysula Winegar

Rita Arens from Blogher: If you’re white, do you think about being white?

Alison Czarnecki from Petit Elephant: Time to Stand up and Have Uncomfortable Conversations

Carvell Wallace on The Toast: A letter to my mother after Charleston

Roxanne Gay’s op-ed in the NYT: Sometimes forgiveness is not the right course.

Awesomely Luvvie: About Charleston and Black Pain.
(This is one to just sit back and read, and try to understand where her perspective comes from, even if your knee-jerk instinct is to disagree.)

Kelly Wickham: Let’s get to the work of anti racism.

On Chookooloonks: Affected. Karen Walrond always puts things in perspective.

Where to donate to help the victims.

 

We know our readers to be a thoughtful, respectful, compassionate group. We expect that if you have the desire to comment or to share another link that you think we’d like (and we would like that), that it will reflect those traits as well.