If you have a daughter, it’s inevitable at some point that she will encounter the heartache of mean girls. It may be when she hits middle school (oh God, middle school) — or it may be as early as kindergarten. And when it happens, it will hurt you as much as it hurts her.

But hey, there’s actually things you can do to prevent it, deal with it, and even come out stronger. All thanks to this brilliant, informative and incredibly engaging conversation with Katie Hurley, an esteemed child psychotherapist, writer, speaker, and author of No More Mean Girls: The Secret to Raising Strong, Confident, and Compassionate Girls.

No More Mean Girls: Outstanding guide for parents from LCSW, speaker and author Katie Hurley

As the mother of five girls between us, we can assure you this is truly an outstanding guide for parents — and this episode is truly an outstanding conversation. Which is why we let this conversation go just a bit longer than we normally do. There was just so much we were learning from Katie!

A few of the topics we discuss:

-Whether these tips about bullying apply to boys too, and how boy and girl aggression can differ
-Why mean girl syndrome seems to be starting even earlier than before
-How social media plays a part
-Why “bullying” is an overused term
-Why taking risks and experiencing failure is so important
-What we can do as parents when our kids encounter mean girls
-How parents can raise girls to be confident and resilient

Take a listen right here, right now:

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And be sure to check out  No More Mean Girls: The Secret to Raising Strong, Confident, and Compassionate Girls by Katie Hurley, on our affiliate Amazon or your local bookstore, and learn more about Katie on Twitter @KatieHurley.


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Our Cool Picks of the Week

Stop Breathe Think Kids app teaches kids meditation, mindfulness, and helps with sleep

Katie is a big fan of the TheStop, Breathe Think Kids app, a really smart meditation, mindfulness and and sleep help (yay!) app. We’re already fans of the original Stop, Breathe,Think App, which is worth a download too.

Yonanas: A new favorite appliance that lets you make ice cream out of frozen fruit. No added sugar or anything!

Kristen can not stop raving about the Yonanas machine, which lets you make ice cream out of nothing more than frozen fruit.

50 screen-free activities for kids this summer, from reading to so much more

Liz keeps turning to our associate editor Kate’s post about 50 screen-free summer activities for kids, which is worth printing out and tacking to the fridge for any time the kids say “we’re bored!”

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