In case the book title How to Be a Happier Parent: Raising a Family, Having a Life, and  Loving (Almost) Every Minute  sounds like something that’s not for you…you’d be wrong. Because it’s written by the hilarious, down-to-earth, wonderfully smart KJ Dell’Antonia, who you may know as an author, podcast host, former Spawned guest, and former lead editor of the New York Times Motherlode blog. And she is joining us this week for advice that will talk you down, not stress you out.

Or as she puts it, this is book to make you go, “oh no…I’m not meditating! I’m not eating organic food all the time!”

Which is why it’s already the #1 best-seller on Amazon in the Motherhood category.

How to be a Happier Parent by KJ Dell'Antonia: Refreshingly smart, funny and down-to-earth!

We think you are going to LOVE this episode of Spawned! Because it’s not just about being a happy parent all the time, it’s about being a happier parent thanks to some no-shame, no-pressure tips to help you find more happiness in your day-to-day.

It’s also about recognizing that you’re already totally nailing the happiness thing in lots of ways that maybe other parents aren’t, so don’t be so hard on yourself!

Just some of the topics we discuss:

-What are the two things that research shows parents like least about parenting
-Why you should write down your top 3 things that drive you crazy and make you unhappy
-What we think about the study that indicated people without kids are happier than adults who are parents
-How to find joy in little things (Hint: you’re probably already doing it!)
-How better mornings can make for better days and weeks
-How making kids and partners do more chores makes a massive difference in happiness!
-Whether parents of toddlers, tweens or teens are happier. (Though it’s not a contest!)
-Why we should talk about teens differently, according to Dr. Ken Ginsburg.
-Why parents stay up too late — even though we know we’ll be sleep-deprived in the mornings.
-Why kids shouldn’t be the center of your universe, and why time apart is so important
-Why you don’t have to go to every single one of your kids’ games or sporting events (Really!)
-Why you should do the stuff now that you imagine you’ll do one day when you’re retired
-Why happy moments aren’t the same as perfect moments

Take a listen right here, right now

You can also listen on iTunes where you can subscribe to Spawned with Kristen + Liz so you never miss an episode. Thanks so much for joining us!

Psst…you can buy How to Be a Happier Parent by KJ Dell’Antonia from our affiliate Amazon or your local indie bookshop. Also check out her podcast #AmWriting with Jess and KJ (co-hosted by another favorite Spawned guest, author, Jessica Lahey) or visit her at

RELATED: See our live Facebook Book Club video about How to be a Happier Parent here!

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